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My Story Finally Launched in the Homeland Amidst a Generational Indifference

Updated: Jul 23, 2022

Post Book Launch Dinner organized by my family

The story of “I am My Mother’s Wildest Dream” finally gets to the Senate Hall at the University of Juba, the nation's most prestigious knowledge hub. Organized by the Center for Strategic and Policy Studies, a Juba-based national thinktank, the event took place at 2:00pm local time on July 1st 2022 with an impressive panel drawing from academia, government and policy research arenas.

It was moderated by Prof. Milton Malingasuk of the University with opening remarks from the Center of Strategic and Policy Studies and the University’s National Transformational Leadership Institute. I once again had an opportunity to share my story with the South Sudanese audience for whom this story belongs. The University said I was the first South Sudanese African woman to launch her book at its most prestigious hall and the first memorist to ever tackle a topic of this magnitude.

The day began with opening remarks from the Center’s representative and the University represented by Prof. Milton who also doubles as the Moderator. My opening address included, among others, my motivation to write the story behind this story as well as sharing my gratitude to both the Center and the University for having organized such a colorful event. I truly felt at home. The hall was full to capacity with a very fascinating audience.

My remarks were followed by an incredibly and well-versed panelists consisting of Prof. Dr. Julia Aker Duany, Emeritus Vice Chancellor of Dr. John Garang Memorial University of Science and Technology, and the current Undersecretary of the Ministry of Public Service and Human Resource Development, Dr. Mario Areng Awet and Ms. Kamille Thomas, my beloved editor and a friend.

With Prof. Julia Duany

Prof. Duany began by saying that cultural issues in Africa are challenging. Quoting Evan Pritchards, one of the most celebrated anthropological scholars amongst the Nuer, Prof. Duany described the living conditions of African women as “pathetic.” She went on to add that “I found the book detailed and factful.” In her critique, Prof. Duany said that the subtitle of the book “fighting cultural norms' ' was misplaced and depicted the author as a victim and an outsider who was committed to fighting the culture in its entirety.

The Professor went on to add that African women go through hard life as a way of preparing them for the future, a comment that aroused a lot of criticism from both the youth and the well-versed elders, questioning the Professor’s thinking on the topic. She even suggested that marriage needed to be approached from a mission-driven perspective as opposed to partnership-based approach as popularized in the western world. Her idea on dowry which she described as a “token of appreciation” to me fell short of answering the big question: what role does dowry play in modern African society?

Despite her critical opinion to the book, the good Professor applauded me for my courage to stand up and write. In her concluding remarks, she ended by agreeing that indeed, “women are productive, strong and the poles of our society.” She also stressed that there was a need to write more materials about mental ill for which I devoted a whole chapter, revealing that she was now inspired to consider writing the book on the same topic in the future. The Professor’s analysis of my story depicted the generational indifference with which the audience approaches my story. The age divide was apparent in the room especially during the Open Discussion.

Dr. Mario on his part described the book as “simple, articulate and an easy read.” He also made the appeal that this book needed to be in every public library across the country, a position I deeply share. Kamille Thomas wowed the audience with her “There is Power in One” opening panel remarks. She moved the audience using her gifted oration and her ability to keep pace despite the diverse environments she oftens finds herself during this tour. “We are not lesser species. We were simply made differently,” she educated the audience, amidst applause. Kamille noted that the progress so far from the book has been “tremendous” and that lives “were being changed and hidden stories exposed.”